Detachment for me is important to stay sane in the midst of all this. It's part of GAL and enjoying your time for you. If I'm not detached, I'm making myself vulnerable to the waves and have a hard time dealing with that.
Each and every person has their own unique set of circumstances, players, etc. You've got to do what works for you or not. You mention above about failing miserably at boundaries, well detachment can help with that. Detachment helps level the roller coaster of emotions as you minimize making yourself vulnerable.
All the best.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
