Separated In Process of Divorce (Anniversary)

[sellout]

So this most likely will be my last post for reasons you will see below. So, Easter Sunday I take my son to Church and wife goes with her work friend and husband (good Christian people). As I found out later on, the OM went as well. They are public about their relationship now. I went to the house after church at which time wife and son were at the grandparents house celebrating Easter. I decided to take it upon myself to do the lawns and clean some of the house. All in took 3 hours. No big deal but wanted to show that I can and will help out around the house to show respect. Upon her arrival she was upset I was even there and said that I cant just show up unannounced. That made me angry right off the bat. She did at least say thanks for cleaning the kitchen. We went on to talk for quite some time and she was very clear she is 100% done and we ARE getting a divorce. This is where things took a huge turn of events. I got angry. I started blaming her for all of this (not just her affair over the last 3.5 months), but everything over the last 16 years. We yelled, screamed, cussed, etc... and it go so bad she called the police on me. They told me to leave and even put in a 61 day protective order that I can come withing 200 yards of the house. The only communication we can have is about coordination of our son, etc... In all honesty, this is what I needed. I have been in complete denial about our situation this entire time and played the "game" completely wrong. Had I played the game right would there have been a different outcome, perhaps? She seems to think so. With that said, both attorneys are in full swing now and we will have a court date before too long. At the end of the day, if I had to point to one thing that didn't allow me to play the game well enough to have even a remote chance was the proximity of the OM. He literally live right across the street (100ft). Anyways, its been good listening to you all and I wish my situation would have turned out much different, but it didn't and life goes on. Have now shifted my focus to divorce recovery. Long road ahead for recovery but at least I am not in limbo anymore. Take care all.