So Confused and Conflicted (7)

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To answer your question Jeep....yes, I have been in a relationship that I ended and the other person wanted to continue. It was during the separation from my W, so I knew the playbook and pursuing is annoying.

To be clear, are you thinking that Wsh falls under that category or is that a general statement?

That being said, it is nearly impossible to identify which relationships on these forums fall under that category. I've seen some of the best DB'ers unable to save their M/R, but leave this place happier/confident than when they arrived. I have also seen some not so good DB'ers save their their M/R. There are other factors that come into play that are unknown to us because we only hear one side of the sitch.

No matter which category a relationship falls under, it ultimately boils down to self-improvement and gaining the skills to improve all relationships. I also realize that people only change when they want/choose to change. I like to encourage change as much as possible. Sometimes it doesn't work out and that is perfectly okay.

I think the beauty of these forums is that we are all complete strangers trying to bring a little light into a dark world at a difficult time.