So Confused and Conflicted (7)

[Dawgs]

I also realize that you have had difficulty with not understanding the cues your W gave you about her unhappiness. Believe me, I missed cues too. Looking back at how my W communicated her unhappiness before BD as a reference and learning that men and women communicate differently, I listen more closely. That's why we have 2 ears and 1 mouth. To listen twice as much as we talk. If I am uncertain about something, I will repeat what my W said to me and say something like this, "You said this, and this is what I heard. Is that right?" The first time I did that, it caught her by surprise.

Very well said, sir. Well said.

However, one of the things that we must realize is that sometimes people get married for the wrong reasons - which they may have thought were right at the time. Now, what I'm about to say isn't in defense of them, but it must be said.

Ever been in a relationship that you wanted out of? See, we are viewing them and their ideas through our own knowledge and eyes. We don't even consider that sometimes the love just isn't there. It is what it is. We hold on to something we have no business holding on to.

And these labels that are so easily thrown around. Good grief.

But, what it boils down to is that they are done. There is no cloud bullshit. No MLC bullshit. THEY ARE DONE. We must accept that and move on. Sometimes they are nice about it and try to let us down easily. Sometimes, they aren't so nice. Either way, it doesn't matter.

Ever broken up with someone and they begged/cried/screamed/stalked? We are/have doing the same thing. And we've all done it, including me.