WW Help Needed

[codeman]

The weight loss is impressive. Can you describe some behavioral issues she had with you, that you have worked on?

I was selfish, self centered and only cared about what I wanted. I thought MY things were more important then people or family. I had no idea how to treat a wife, no excuses just fact. I neglected her to the point of going days without even speaking to her. I was controlling and demeaning to her and her opinions. I withheld sex from her because of how I felt towards her. I dismissed all she wanted and cared about. I did not cherish her as I should have. I was a horrible husband/person.

In other words, how would the marriage be better or different than before?

First I must qualify my answer with both sides would need much work to get there but...
Talk about a 180. I am completely selfless now. I realized that people and family are most important. I care nothing about "things" now unless it is to give to someone in need. I learned what it is to be a man and a husband. A Christian man and husband who loves others as God loves us. I see what she was telling me that I couldn't or wouldn't see then. I listen more and speak less. The kind of listening that a woman wants and need. I used to think I had to fix everything. I thought she was just complaining all the time but I see now that she was desperate to communicate her feelings to me and I did not hear her. I heard the tone and the words she used but I did not understand the message she was trying to convey. It is like my eyes have been opened for the first time after being blind all my life.

I would cherish and protect my wife.