So, I got the proposed contract from my lawyer. It is pretty harsh, with me gaining 50% of any equity after the mortgage/fees are paid off.
This reflects the deed, but does not reflect that he put money down and I didn't (but I made payments).
I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to send this to him to wake him up out of his magical thinking that there are no repercussions for his choices. Part of me still loves him and wants to protect him from pain, until I remember that he doesn't feel the same drive toward me. And part of me does not want to give him more ammunition about why leaving me out of the blue was justified.
Also, I incurred some very real financial costs due to his unilateral decision to end things. I really don't want to be fully self-sacrificial here.
What do I do? I was hoping I could send this to him and then we could negotiate, but I can't tell him that.
Veterans? Anyone? Bueller?
Help.
(I've not ruled out reconciliation, though I recognize it would be a long road with lots of work on his part - and mine - so I don't feel like that would happen in the near future. But I'd like to not destroy the possibility for it.)
