The hardest thing for me is the kids. I've mentioned to you before that I think mine uses the kids to get to me. I wondered if yours might be doing the same. Because of those thoughts and because I feel better when I don't see or hear from him, and I listen to the kids say that, but I don't believe them . . . It is so hard to remember that their relationship with the WH is completely different from ours. I agree with Altair that D should thank him and if you feel better being silent, go with that. I think the older kids need more constant reminders that they left us, not the children and that it is still their dad. They may not always feel the same as they do now. Maybe they will be better, or maybe worse. But the worst would be for our children to feel disconnected with us someday because they felt they had to make a choice.
