Good stuff with the job and the gym. Exercise is so helpful at times like these...
Your story resonates with me. It was my first M and XH's second and similar length of time together. He too ducked out whilst we were dating and with hindsight my boundaries were pretty poor and we got back together without any particular work being done on his end. What were his circumstances when you guys met? Had his first M already ended? I met XH a year after he and his XW1 had S and with hindsight that was too soon.
I would certainly agree about not dating. For now, focus on healing, growth and building a full life for yourself without another guy in the picture. What are you doing to meet your social needs?
Finally, reading about your M, you guys sound rather enmeshed and codependent. This isn't a criticism, I think many of us here feel that way when we look back. The alarm bells are no friends outside of the M, everyone thought we were the best couple etc...
How do you feel looking back?
Stick with us Judela and you will get through this intact, however things unfold...
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
