So Confused and Conflicted (7)

[WshIKnw]

I'm going to respond with more, but I just realized how it's funny how it's almost all ladies that criticize how I was in the marriage, and it's mostly the men pushing me to not be wimpy and to GAL. I think men understand more why I made the mistakes that I made in the marriage. And women understand better my wife's point of view. This is good, though. Helps me to learn her point of view, which I definitely need to understand better. What's crazy is how I thought I was doing fine all those years. My wife's cards and notes telling me I was doing fine didn't help in my misperception. As I said a few posts back, last year's Valentine's Day card from her said "You're all that I ever hoped for in a husband." And she underlined the words "all", "hoped for" and "husband". I assume that I wasn't a wonderful husband/boyfriend for nine years, that all of a sudden turned into a terrible husband some time in the final 9 months before BD, because I don't see how I significantly changed during those final 9 months. And the words that she wrote, herself, in the anniversary card she gave me a few weeks before BD indicated that she was still very happy with me. Would have been nice had she been consistent with her words. Either I need to improve or I don't. Let's make up our mind.