the intermittent reinforcement ! YES BF Skinner....
I've often thought of that! It's our spouse's inconsistent crap that throws us when we get a bone thrown our way.
In my case, h had some very moving, (even public) moments of clarity where tremendous remorse was shown...
and then it went away. Not sure why...but
what I learned about ME so far is, that I clung to those morsels SO MUCH MORE than I should have.
As if those short loving gestures/experiences and moments of contentment or closeness, somehow made up for dozens of very bad ones -and plenty of neglect - b/c I chose to focus only on the parts that validated my choice to stay.
OMG Wow, sometimes writing things out here helps b/c I just had an AHA moment.
Thornton, your thread is helping ME and while I don't want to project my stuff on you,
is any of this resonating?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
