I just wouldn't always try hard enough, especially later in the marriage, as I felt more and more secure in the marriage, with each passing year.
One thing I learned about myself is that I became content with what I had and the status quo. This isn't a bad thing necessarily, but marriage and relationships aren't static, they constantly change. I missed some changes and therefore missed some needs. This doesn't mean my wife is without her own set of problems that she needs to deal with, but I can't control those.
Take a real look back over the marriage and see how it changed over time. There are always signs that you missed. Focus on what you missed and why, then work on how to notice in the future. This usually meant being more active in listening for me, not formulating a response while she is talking. Most people aren't able to tell you exactly how they feel if asked but their actions and tone say a lot.
Men are from Mars, I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You, 5 Love Languages, Hold Me Tight were all books that helped me a lot (still working). There's a link on here somewhere for more resources. Try to keep your beginners mind when reading these books and this thread, even if you don't end up agreeing there's usually something you can take from it.
Together 7 years Married 3 Said she was taking long way home late January Left to get some space 2/19/17 BD 3/1/17 ILYB
