Dealing with Devastation

[giftd]

I appreciate the support wsh. I'd love some more constructive feedback as well. I've been reading tons of books on communication and separation along with DR. I love you but... by Andrew G Marshall helped a lot. The hard part has been utilizing the knowledge in practice. Listening 70% of the time is hard to do in part because she wasn't ready to do the talking in some of our conversations, she was still in crisis mode. Most of the time she still is but since she initiated this conversation the timing was good for her and since I had gone dark before, even though she had a bad day at work it wasn't projected onto me at all. I'm feeling pretty good today even though I know I still have to try to detach because backing off removed me from the equation. Instead of being unhappy "because" of me, she was unhappy and called to talk and feel better.