I think you are doing well, giftd. I wish others would chime in more, though, because I'm just a student here. And I think you know what you are doing better than I do. I also think your situation is much better than mine, though I do believe my wife would still be with me right now, had she not met the other man, or any other man.

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.