Hi HaWho, thanks for your kind post on my thread...I am always in awe of your calm and forebearance - truly I am not sure I could do it.

Interesting to read that poem from your H. I think MLCers act on emotion in that moment. And so he sent the poem, then he felt differently (and a little cross and embarrassed) after that..but it was illuminating I think.

Yes, I would sit back and go with the flow on the family visits. As for the music, is it sometimes best to encourage self-reflection in these instances perhaps??

Have a lovely weekend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus