Is this what I should be doing? My interpretation of getting a life is "getting my own life without her". Is this right or am I still missing the message?
Thank you Mach1 for calling me out on my flip flopping.
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How about, just letting this rest for a while....???
I can 100% guarantee you, that, if you want to be married to her, then filing for a Divorce is counterproductive in that area...
Take some time, and get your feet back underneath yourself before you make any "emotional" decisions about your future...
Look at it like a bottle of wine...
You open it up, and let it breathe for a while in order to gain the fullest flavor from it....
I completely understand making a snap judgement about filing, but look at it from an outsiders point of view for a minute...
You were angry and hurt, so you made a decision , albeit one that you did not want, because it was the only way to hurt her as badly as you were hurt...
Doesn't make that wrong or right, it just is what it is...
I always recommend that one takes some time before any life decisions are made during these times.
So you take a year to really find out what exactly YOU want from life before you decide that you want a house..
I can assure you, that your life will look VERY different a year from now than what it does today...
Does that sound like something you can do ???
As far as what you should be doing ??
I think that you step back, and think about what you want your words and actions to say to her. I think that your words AND actions should match your boundaries...
And take this time to really get inside of your own head. Facing fears, figuring out how you want your life to look a year from now...
Write out some goals and ideas for yourself, and start working toward them one step at a time...
So, goal one is, that a year from today, you want to start the process of owning your own home...
Where, is yet to be determined. But you WILL be ready when the time comes for that....
