Thanks everyone.

I turned him down. I wrote and said that I appreciated his offer to meet but said it wasn't necessary because I didn't find his document confusing. I said my lawyer was drafting a response and I anticipate having something to send early next week.

Boy, was that hard.

Before I met H, I used to do some online dating. I was sitting at work about an hour ago and my cell phone rang, and the caller was "Sean [Dating Site]". I answered it and it was a pocket dial of some sort because it was just muffled sounds. I do have a name at the beginning of the alphabet so I do get pocket dials sometimes.

I don't remember who he is so I texted and asked who it was and if he'd just called by accident. We got to chatting and we sent one another a few pictures to try to refresh our memories.

I still don't remember him but he looks cute. Unfortunately he moved to the other coast. He said he'll look me up if he's in the area.

I feel like that was a sign.

Cristy
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Are you still open to reconciliation?


I think so but not with him like this. It's so hard because I was head over heels for him for 5 years, and then he changed and turned into this self-centered alien being.

If I could have the old him back, absolutely. If it's this version of him, then I could do without.

Leah
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Staying calm and in control of yourself and your emotions, and staying firm in your boundaries of the financial outcome of this hot mess. Great job, Cadence.


Thanks, Leah. It's so hard. I don't want to cause suffering or hurt feelings, but at the same time he needs to realize what he's doing. He acts as if he can just undo everything and get all his money back, and that's just not how this works.

I also enjoy that I am the opposite of his exW and don't contact him if I can help it. And when I do, it is cordial, brief, and all business. (I do type out the emotional vents, but those stay firmly in my "draft" folder, with no recipient specified. Just in case.)

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And I love the "eating my feelings" stage. I know I went stupid for about 2 weeks on Reese's easter eggs, but didn't really have a name for that stage.


I normally do low-carb (it works really well for me) and I am so off the wagon it's not even funny. Chips! Chocolate! Yes please.

But I could only bring a few clothes with me to my shoebox so I need to reign myself in so that everything still fits me laugh And I do want to look good. I think this weekend I'll make the transition back to the wagon.

... After I finish my chocolate. Wouldn't want it going to waste, and all.