If there was a definite OW, I might have different advice about him going this weekend. And I might not. I LOVED the opportunities for my H to tag along with the kids and me when he was gone last time. Nothing satisfied me more than knowing he was looking at me in a way he couldn't have me ... and OW was pacing her floors, worried about what was going on between H and me.
But that's just me.
You are practically beating on your chest about what you will and won't allow *IF* there's an OW. It was also you who said you have no concrete evidence that one exists. Soooooo ..... ?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014