That is another mistake I (yes ME) made - when we reconciled,
despite his mothers illness - OR Because of it, why didn't I more strongly urge him to seek T?
We went to Retrovaille, had a break through and then his mom was sick and BOOM,
piecing was over. I don't mean consciously over. But In hindsight...which is 20-20
I am not positive H has ever sought help for something apart from me. Nothing individual....but God knows I have and will.
I would venture that his Mother being sick affected BOTH of you deeply.
Enough of a bottom ( not an absolute bottom ) to put the monsters to sleep for a while.
Enough of a return for you to breathe a sigh of relief...
Life moves on, things are good on the outside...
Her being sick affected you too, probably moreso considering that your head wasn't constructed of mush-brain just shortly before. Coming from DBing, YOU were ultra sensitive to your surroundings...
Him ? Not so much...
For him, is was shift in his brain from one thing to absorb his energy, into another thing to absorb his energy....
Now, for the part that you may not like... : )
Your words here...
Try not to get caught up in the "whys" of this. They really serve you no purpose for now. There will be time for that later, down the road.
Your objective is totally different than most here, at least for today.
You aren't here trying to save, or salvage the pieces of your marriage.
So my advice to you, would be, to first off...
You need to be 100% physically, or as close as you can be...
That should be priority number one for you...
From there, THEN you make plans, and go after what you want...
From there, THEN you are able to do the things that you WANT to do...
From there, THEN you become more financially stable on your own, and whatever comes from him is bonus money, play money if you will...
