25yearsMLC - 10 years later I FILE D

[25yearsmlc]

I think the fault that most LBS make are that they continue to be Co-dependent, conflict avoiding, enablers.
I know that describes me and concerns me for any relationship.
Boundaries remain important also.
I think that is where I need to continue my effort of work.
And I would suggest most other LBS's here need to do the same.

YES^^^

RE Past 10 years --- When the boundaries were not completely clear, I failed to enforce them. In fact, even when they were semi clear, I somehow did not see it, or let it slide.

Why? Fear? Surely that's a part of it.

But I think there is more and that I have to explore it deeply and bravely and maybe not like what I find.

Like I didn't want to see it I know that I soooo wanted to keep the girls in one place for their schooling, (which they asked for as their priority 10 years ago),

so maybe I saw what I had to see to achieve that goal and hoped things would improve "later"??? My grief when my mom died and the other things that happened in late 2015, threw me off. But there were times before then that h was line crossing.

I'll definitely work on this^^ with my new T.

I will not repeat that behavior again in any r.

So help me God I say this here,

The next time an actual boundary or deal breaker is crossed,

I will walk away and not look back.

I would ask that you all help me remember this if it ever comes up.