Imo, we need to look at the reason we entered the realtionship in the first place. In my case, ex-H was strong where i was weak and i was strong where he was weak. We shared common interest and we truely were best friends. We have set goals and achieved them. Each of us take on a role. We help and support eachother in those roles.we help one another be the best we can be. We have done alot for our Ex's to be who they are today BUT, They have done alot for US to be who we are. Co-dependancy imo is part of a relationship. We know(or thought) we can count on our partner in our moment of weakness. Unfortunately, when MLC hit, we are left to dry while they find someone else to plsy our role. In their mind, the role can be played by both woman and when we slap them with a reality tcheck, they are baffled.. ????
ANGER.. Like Vanilla, i like anger. It is a powerful emotion, a motivator, a protector. It could also be unhealthy if we carry it too far. Anger need balance. In your case, it is a drive for your D. Be careful to not use it for revenge.you do not want to live with guilt and shame yourself. Analyze what your future needs and set this as your platform. No need to give him everything and no need to put him in the street.. be fair and you' ll be feeling good about the whole thing!
25, YOU ARE a woman with a Great heart and good judgement. You know right from wrong and i know you will follow your intuitions. I have faith in you and i really do admire the person you are!!