Although I have not said much recently, I have continued to keep up with your thread. I felt you needed to hear from the others who have experienced the same kind of pain. I just want you to know how very sorry I am for how things have gone. You are one of my favorite people on the board, and I wish I could say something to make you feel better.
Whatever issues your H has, are not truly with you. You are the target for his blame, b/c that's much easier than him digging deep to deal with the truth about himself. His issues are from within himself and those issues will continue for him, unless he finds a therapist who will get to the real source. No matter who he is with, sooner or later these same issues will arise again. B/c it's not the relationship or the spouse......but him. When a person doesn't know what they want or what would make them happy......there's not much to work with, is there? Doesn't help your pain, but I hope you won't blame yourself and think you should have done something differently. He doesn't even know......so how could you?
You have people who love and value you a great deal. They are fortunate to have you in their lives. You are an amazing woman.....and don't let him, or anyone else, cause you to think differently.
I hope you will stay with us, b/c we care. You can vent as much as you want to us. ((TO))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
