Here Again part 4

[Train]

T0,

You're bigger and better than this.

But, honestly, I think the best "place" you can be right now is in a place of having just "given up." Go ahead and give up. Because in that very place, you'll learn how to drop the stinkin' rope and find detachment.

The talks and the questions and the ultimatums and the grand pronouncements are not working.

I feel by not talking we are just going further apart.
You know better than this. It's one of the first, hard-and-fast rules of DB and many other marriage-saving (or sanity-saving) programs.

Talking only serves to remind him of why he's disgusted by you right now. I'll say it again: every, single time you open your mouth, the light-and-breezy, flirty huzz-bucket co-worker sounds better and better. She's the refreshing one. She's the carefree one. You talk about responsibilities, bills, kids. Your mouth is moving, and all he "hears" is blah blah blah blah.

Does that make me happy to write? NO. Especially because it makes me want to karate-chop him in the throat for being "that guy" to a pregnant W. And I'm not asking you to be strong and endure his crap, either. I'm not even suggesting you suck it up to save your M. What I *AM* saying is this: no matter WHERE you're standing at the end of this, choose NOW to store-up your dignity so it's standing there with you.

Having a child without your H there feels like the worst thing that could ever happen to you right now. I get it. But it's not. There are A LOT worse things I can imagine.

Being a single mother (albeit temporarily, you can be sure) of three children probably seems unbearable to you right now. But on the other side of this, it's NOT. I can think of far worse realities.

Look around and take inventory of the things you have. Food in your fridge and pantry? A roof over your head? Clean, running water? Check, check, check. Then you have all your needs met right in this very minute. Heck, you even have a job with a great income!

Hang in there. Give up on your M for today. Wake up and give up on it again tomorrow if you want. If giving up means you STFU and focus only on your baby and children, then please, for the love of all that's holy, give up!