So Confused and Conflicted (7)

[WshIKnw]

Remember, your perspective is different than your W's reality.

That's the whole problem, LITB -- this is the ending of a marriage based on misunderstanding. It's a shame.

Your W's actions are presently clear. More importantly, your path should be clear.

Her actions make it clear that there is a serious problem with our marriage, but only she knows what's going on in her mind, and she might not know for sure what she thinks and wants. I wish her actions before would have been strong enough to let me know there was a serious problem with the marriage, while I still had the chance to do something about it. I guess I should instead say that I wish I had understood her actions.

I can definitely see how GAL should be a very large part of my path. The whole no contact thing with my wife, though, I'm very skeptical about.

What you do with what you now know, is up to you.

I'm still very confused and conflicted. I still can't believe she did what she did, and did it the way she did it. I'm also still very torn on what to do, in some ways. It's amazing how I went from thinking I knew pretty well how to be successfully married to this girl, to feeling like I didn't know much of anything. Now I'm at least aware of my ignorance, and aware that just because I can't imagine a woman leaving me, that doesn't mean that they won't at a moment's notice. A marriage takes a lot more work to keep up than I was realizing in those last few years.