H and I have run the numbers regarding our taxes and boy is he mad!!! If we file together we will owe. If we file separately, he will owe, I will not. He needs me to lower what he owes. Guess which option I have chosen? Sorry, Charlie.
I would be willing to compromise in some way, but he hasn't offered and I don't feel compelled to "fix" this issue for him by bringing it up. He is a grown man; he wants to fire me as his wife, then a consequence of that is he will have to figure this stuff out on his own. If he is too proud to ask for help, then that is on him.
We were audited a year ago because of all the IVF related medical expenses we deducted. At the time we were going through the IVF I told him that I knew we would get audited so I asked him to keep meticulous records for tax purposes. Did he? No. Has he learned his lesson? No. When going over things he just kept ball parking numbers. I told him that won't work; he needs to have documentation. How has he not learned his lesson?
I don't know if he is just being lazy, or if he is careless, or if he just plain stupid. I am sure his mind has been on his OW fantasies as well. I am very angry about this. This has been a recurring issue in our marriage - where I see he fails to learn from mistakes. He does nothing to correct or change his behavior. It's incomprehensible to me. I would love to know where this comes from; maybe then I could have more compassion or understanding. When I have talked to him about this he tells me my expectations are too high. The old saying is true, you can't change what you don't acknowledge.
It's stuff like this that makes me think reconciliation would be nearly impossible. There is so much resistance on his end to acknowledge his part or to even change.
