Gordie ^^ nailed it! Please don't spend one more minute feeling bad about your H's financial situation. He put all of this in motion. This is a consequence to his actions. If he wants this D, then he will have to accept that if it happens, it will change things in every way for him.
Sometimes I think they are so enmeshed in their fantasy of what life will be like, they fail to really think about the consequences of their actions.
