You are getting some of the best advice available anywhere for your sitch. Remember, your perspective is different than your W's reality.
What you didn't know before is not a crutch to hold you back. Your W's actions are presently clear. More importantly, your path should be clear.
What you do with what you now know, is up to you.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa