Hi My namesake. I've been meaning to stop by with some words of encouragement, and like Sandi, my words are failing me!
I'm sorry you are going through this. I think you are amazingly brave. You've been through this rodeo before and you have done the work, and you know what you need to do now.
I know this must be hard on the kids, but it just kind of shows how he is living in his own little out of touch with reality world, when everyone sees his insanity except for him.
My hopes for you are to get what is rightfully yours and to continue to live an emotionally rich life, which you did build for yourself aside from your H during his crisis. You'll come out on the other end with flying colors. For now, you need to feel what you feel and do what you gotta do and we are all here for you.