25yearsMLC - 10 years later I FILE D

[25yearsmlc]

Vanilla

I'm not in la la land or doing a lot of "Zen forgive H' things. I'm only dealing with what is, and what I will create.

What IS, is legal crap that you're hideously familiar with. H wanted to mediate of course, but we have no custody issues or real estate.

So it's a numbers game only and given that h was the breadwinner and there are state legal formulas that are very fair to me, I saw no advantage to mediation for me.

I don't want to mind read too much but h SEEMS to feel the minimum the Federal law requires is more than fair. After all, his father gave nothing to his mother after 18 years of m. .

I enabled H to earn the big bucks of the double board certified MD, and won't even bother defending why I deserve more than H's version (about 1/9 of his earnings).

It speaks for itself.

THAT^^ makes me angry and THAT makes me fill out the reams of gross paperwork and stay on top of my L's but the costs are mounting. And being very aggressive, is also very expensive.

But at the moment I don't see a choice to it, b/c I now believe h would hide money. I mean,

(AND OMG as I write that^^ I'm slapping my forehead & saying '"of course he'd hide money!")

Yes, there is value is journalling out loud here.

Thanks, V.