Second, what Ginger & Kaizen & the other posters...please take this in.
I might be overly sensitive at the moment, but I sense a resistance to what women tell you here. As if we are to be lumped into the "female brain" and cannot possibly understand your point of view. But we do.
I grew up with 5 brothers, I was close to my father, raised a son, worked with mostly men, & I am very social. I'm an extreme extrovert and I know that's just different for you. I pick up on social cues pretty well.
If I could only give you one suggestion here, it would be for you to work on picking up on social cues. Verbal, facial, physical, and written, etc.
(Learning the love language of the person you marry, & giving in their love language, too.)
It's not all about how you lacked experience in a dating relationship. You have an IC now, so why not explore this?
We are not here to bash you. Even when we check you and guide you back, it's b/c we want you to improve in your next r, especially if it's with your w. For you to become your best most loving & thus, more loved, you.
That is so much more within your control than you seem to realize. Push yourself harder.
Because something is hard, does not mean we should not do it.
I've come to believe most of the best things in life are very simple AND very hard.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
