T0324, While I'm not pregnant, I'm certainly in your same shoes...perhaps our husbands are long lost twins, judging by their actions. My H has already filed for divorce and moved in with his parents three weeks ago. (Although I've seen him almost every day since because of our 2 year old.) I have to reply to the summons & petition next week and am sick just thinking about it.:( While I can't say our "divorce will be busted," I can say the mood of our time together has changed significantly ever since I stopped talking about our marriage. (I asked what I could do to make him happy, cried/begged/pleaded/quoted scripture/etc. for the sake of our family.) I have been very intentional about being the "Becky of old" when I see him. Sometimes I stay in the car to dry my tears and collect myself, but I force the happy face/personality that used to be me before "the Enemy" (OW/Satan) entered our marriage. It is SO HARD! Train, Your advice is incredible. Exactly what I needed to read. Your wisdom and courage is a testament to the dedication and commitment saving a marriage takes. I have no idea if my marriage is going to survive...I want to have hope, but focusing on restoring and building myself to the best version of me is the best way to make that happen. I pray like mad for God's will to infect my H's heart and he reconsiders the notion of reconciliation. In the end, regardless of the outcome, I will be better and stronger because these are changes I'm making for me, just as much as our marriage. I'll toss a few prayers your way, too. Peace, love and hugs.
Me 35, H 33 T 10, M 7 D 2 EA confirmed 12/22/2014 H moved out 2/1/2016 Returned 3/18/2016, H gave back my wedding ring 8/3/2016 H became distant 10/24/2016 H Moved out Filed 3/17/2017
