You know, don't treat your anger and frustration and impatience as bad things. They are perfectly normal in this situation and the mere presence of them doesn't determine which way it will go (if you're just feeling them, if you're wielding them as weapons, then they absolutely can.)
I am still in a sad phase, and I say to my friends that have to listen to me "Don't think I'm weak because I'm feeling these. I acted in very strong yet compassionate ways, and he doesn't get to see my emotional weakness. But it's still there and I'm letting it out in a safe place."
That's what you're doing, too. You're feeling those feelings but they don't define you. and just feeling them doesn't mean you're acting upon them.
All the feelings can do is make you stronger. So use them for that. Because, guess what, you don't have to make any decisions right now (and that's bad news and good news!)
So stop worrying about what he will and won't do - easier said than done, I know - and you concentrate on you. You're going to live a happy life no matter what.
Personally, I have hope for you and H. Time passing is not a bad thing because it can help give perspective. You assume that he's not in pain like you are with this passing time, but he very well may be. You don't know.
Walk that tightrope so that you are moving on without moving on. You can't get your relationship back without H's willful participation, so you don't have to make decisions now. When that day comes, you'll be further on that tightrope and you'll have a better sense of what you want for yourself.
The time to make decisions is NOT when emotions are flowing like they're on a roller-coaster (someone tell that to our H's...)
Allow yourself to fully feel the negativity and then let it go. If it comes again, do the same thing. You won't always feel like this and the future is yet to be determined.
