It has really helped me in realizing that my children are 50% their mother and I am 50 percent each of my parents, so while we don't care for the ACTIONS of our spouse, we still have to honor the facts of why we are all here.
We love our children unconditionally and so too we must love our children's other parent. Again the good old word DETACH comes into play and really trying to understand how to do that with love!
Yes LOVE is still a CHOICE and the fact that our partner chose a different path does not really matter with our path.
