So, say you checked in with your W once a month and asked if she was happy.
Ive spent some time ruminating on your practice of 'checking in' and taking a measure of her happiness regularly. Im not sure how I feel about it.
On the one hand, I do agree that it's important to have some types of regular communication about the status of the relationship. To make sure that theres no major issues, just like going to an annual doctor's checkup.
On the other hand, it feels to me, like you are acting very passively doing this. Almost like you need her to be your mother in telling you what you need to do. It's especially concerning if you have these discussions but dont take action based on the feedback. Im sure these discussions will become tedious and annoying to her if you dont do anything afterwards. Ultimately, I dont blame her for just saying 'fine' after a few times of missed expectations.
In any case, Im not sure any of it is the point. For now, Id keep focusing on what you can do to rebuild (build?) some self worth. Keep up the GAL.
