Can you be my friend IRL? Haha! I have to come here for advice because I cannot talk about it with my friends/family because everyone wants me to leave him. Well make him leave. Every single person wants me to kick him out and get a lawyer. It gets me more worked up and then makes me want to start talking to him about things more and just spirals from there.
I know that I am a control freak and I see things the way I see them and have a hard time seeing from his perspective. And yes, him doing the yard work and the pool stuff is his way of showing me 'he's trying' in his mind. But he says I can't see that and instead of recognizing that I focus on what he's not doing.
I'm going to try and not mope and not ask any questions what so ever. I'll make dinner tonight and whatever time he chooses to come home he comes home. I know his appointment is at 4 so I'm not sure if he will be home late. I'm interested to see how he acts after he speaks with the counselor. I know the counselor said he really just wants to listen but that he definitely wanted to explain with H that I definitely will not be 'over' what happened in the past especially when certain behaviors change. I hope he has an open mind to be able to really hear this information.
