So Confused and Conflicted (7)

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Thank you all for the encouragement.

I was just thinking about how some people have questioned why I waited until my wife threatened divorce before really taking her seriously. I did that because I needed to know how much she needed the things she was asking for, because I weighed those things, asking myself if they are things​ that are worth me making sacrifices for. I don't need to give in to every single request of hers, do I? It's just really important to know how much the things matter to her. Of course I would agree to do just about anything to keep her. So, it's important to know whether these things are things she requires, to stay with me. She would never tell me how much she needed the things she asked for. And I didn't have the prior relationship experience to know how risky it was to not know how important things were to her, and to not take ALL requests seriously, unless I was sure they weren't very important to her. My wife would also never tell me when she was unhappy in the relationship. I always had to pull that out of her. She would just complain about things, and then act content or happy whether she got from me what she wanted or not. I never thought in a million years that she would just leave without warning. Unfortunately, I had gotten so comfortable that I had forgotten how I had to ask her how happy she was once a month or so.