I still cherish the memories that we made together, and the children that I am a Father to that are one half of her...to dis-respect her, is to disrespect half of them too.
Funny that Mach1 brings this up as I think it is really a valid point.
One of the things that happened to me since bomb drop and divorce is that I did genetic testing. You know the inexpensive kind used for ancestry and health. It was so complicated that I could not understand it so I took 3 free online classes in genetics and biology.
It has really helped me in realizing that my children are 50% their mother and I am 50 percent each of my parents, so while we don't care for the ACTIONS of our spouse, we still have to honor the facts of why we are all here.
We love our children unconditionally and so too we must love our children's other parent. Again the good old word DETACH comes into play and really trying to understand how to do that with love!
Yes LOVE is still a CHOICE and the fact that our partner chose a different path does not really matter with our path. Of course we are so co-dependent and I can see that now so much more clearly. I think that you know all the buzz words here and that YOU know that the focus you must keep is on 25yearsMLC. Its hard, like J3B kept telling me is that it is a work in progress. You keep doing it one day at a time.
