Struggling with multiple challenges

[25yearsmlc]

So sorry you are here Derek. This place can be a great support place.

Yes I've been trying to work on myself

Just curious, what does this^^ mean?


and this I understand completely. It isn't easy though as right now it is tough to be motivated to do much of anything. I ensure the children are cared for but that makes it tough to find time for myself.

I would urge you to hire a sitter for your GAL activities, which will help YOU for sure, and perhaps more...

When we do have relationship conversations, which is rare, she keeps telling me that I am making a mountain out of a molehill and that things aren't as bad as I make them to be. I try to paint the picture I see from my end and tell her to put herself in my shoes but that obviously isn't much of a concern to her right now.

well, you have to set a boundary that you are willing to enforce. What is that boundary? How will you enforce it? My one piece of advice

Do NOT set a boundary you are not willing to follow through on. You will lose whatever leverage you have here. And I think you have some b/c she knows you are a good provider and father and that DOES matter.

But don't argue your case; it's falling on deaf ears.