What else do you recommend for someone facing so many different challenges and changes that his wife is undergoing while still maintaining my own sanity?
DerekM,
Maintaining your own sanity while being caught-up in all of the insanity is a bit of a Catch 22. I'm sorry you're here, but you've come to a good place for help.
A lot of the things you'll need to do will seem counter-intuitive. You say you need to earn back your marriage, yet your wife is the one who is cheating; that's what's so insane. There is a lot of work for you to do, but a lot of it involves working on yourself rather than working on the marriage.
