So Confused and Conflicted (6)

[leahsue]

Wsh,
I agree, I don't think Jeep is trying to "lift you up"~ I think he's trying very hard to "wake you up". Sometimes Jeep leans a little more toward the reality check than the hand holding, but that's just him calling it like he sees it. I think if you will take a few minutes, and skim back through your threads and all the words and words of the very same advice from so many people on here, you will begin to see a pattern of- everyone saying the same things to you about how to get better, for you, because your wife is gone- but you spend way more time (it seems to me) trying to convince everyone on here that your situation is different and you are handling it a better way. I think you'll also find tons of people, myself included, who faithfully come back to you with encouragement to keep on trying, pull yourself together, etc., but you don't seem to be acting on any of that advice. I'm going to be really honest here- if I were trying to be apart from my spouse right now, and had asked for that loud and clear, and he texted me cheery little things every single day, I would block his number. I truly believe we all have the same goal-to help you grow and be stronger, for your sake, not to save your marriage, and to help you be able to look back one day and know you maintained your dignity and self-worth in the face of a horrible situation. Please, please hear us. I think you are damaging any chance you may have of ever getting her attention again (in a positive way, anyway) by the pushing you keep doing, but more than that, I think you are setting yourself up to stay stuck in a sad place, and you are the only one who can make that decision to stay there, or get up and become the man only a fool would leave. I say all this in sincere love and best wishes for you.