Not harsh, but needed. There is no need for sunshine and false hope to be spread, but real life...because you certainly don't listen to the advice given.
Or would you rather your hand be held with false hope? Would you rather hear that "oh she may come back IF you do this" or "she is just in some crisis and will come back?" It seems you would rather hear false hope than the real thing. Whatever floats your boat, because what you are currently doing now certainly won't help with another - IF - relationship. Either fix yourself and change, or drive the same road.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
