Read this. Let it sink in. These are your words and they are dead on. Right now, it doesnt matter what you do.
So stop doing things for/to her. As I said to 180Man, if you are sinking in quicksand, whats the best thing to do? It's to stop and relax. Go slowly and deliberately. Too much activity and youll sink. Right now, you are sinking.
Now, more than ever is the time to leave her alone and become NowIKnw.
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
So, at this point, I just am kind of doing what feels good./
You know what feels good? Eating 17 cookies. That feels good for a few minutes. And then it hurts and I have regret. How about drinking tons of teuila? Feels good for a bit....then, it feels really not good. Stop going by what feels good - it's likely just numbing your pain. Get to the root of the issue and resolve it.
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
That seemed to be doing more harm than good, helping her forget me.
Do you think texting your W daily is doing harm or good?
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
My step mom said that if she dumped a guy and he made no contact, she'd think he didn't care, and she would just keep going. Maybe she doesn't really know what she truly would do.
Yeah, I think not. I always said I would drop a SO if I found out they were cheating on me. Then they did, and I realized that it wasnt a dealbreaker for me. Im guessing your step mom has never been in this position...
Originally Posted By: WshIKnw
But when they leave for someone else, it doesn't seem that no contact is going to pull them back. They have no reason to go back, if they have a person out there to grab hold of, most likely.
They. Will. Never. Go. Back. To. The. Same. Relationship.
If she is going to come back, it has to be different.
YOU have to be different.
So far, all I can see is your words say you are 'awakened'. But where are the actions to back that up? If I cant see them, Im sure she wouldnt be able to see them.
