What are the reasons she's given you for not wanting to be married to you any more?
And, regardless of what reasons she's given, what is your best understanding of why she doesn't want to be married to you any more?
Do you believe that her decision process for leaving is generally a rational decision process?
She is very clear about why she is leaving. She says that she cannot have sex with me anymore because it makes her sad. she says that when I got her pregnant it really tapped into her old hurt and abortions and that I did it on purpose. she says her feelings will never come back and that she is young enough that she doesn't want to live a sexless life. she has a tendency to mis-remember our past as worse than it was but I believe that this is just excuses that she is telling herself to make leaving me easier.
From what I can see on my side, she was having feelings of leaving me 7 months before I got her pregnant because this is when her EA started with the celebrity. I just made it worse when I hurt her but that is not the whole story. she is dreaming of a whole new life where she is an artist and lives a party/artist life with a new man. she wants to prove that she can be completely financially independent as an artist.
I'm not sure how to judge the rationality of her decisions. I wish she would forgive me and we could be together. She hasn't faced the problem of what will happen with the kids so she is pretty irrational in that department.
