I think hope is good. I think it is a good instigator of change. But the best thing you can do is leave her alone. She isnt interested in you as a husband right now, so stop trying to do that job right now. Keep your focus on you, not on the things in blue above. Those dont matter right now.
^What he said. Well, you know about hope and crap, which one fills the hand? As he said, she isn't interested in you as a husband, PERIOD. Not now and probably not ever. Take care of yourself.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.