Hi Job ... yes sure just delete that one ... Thanks for answering my questions... you are right... no way to know what he wants . Since I don't see him I have no way to figure out whether he is in replay or depression or withdrawal. I don't know if there is someone in his life or not. Whether he is partying or sleeping early... whether what he says of working a lot is true or not... anyway I guess knowing will not be of help either. Me and kids are doing well. As I said they rarely ask about him anymore and I try to avoid the subject.