Thanks SBJ. I didn't count on feeling so guilty about his financial situation. But I guess the bottom line is the girls and I didn't choose this but we're trying to work with what we have. Supporting two households is just not economical so it was bound to look ugly on one side or the other.
I finally got to see a nasty side of him when we were having our meeting on Saturday. I've been wondering when he would stop being a martyr and start spewing. I have a feeling he will hold me to blame for his finances for the next 12 years.
I wonder if this is what he envisioned when he wanted to leave the marriage because he "wasn't happy"? This seems so much less happy all the way around.
Me : 42 Him : 43 M : 18, T : 19 D13, D11 4/16 1st BD (ILYB) 11/16 H wants s, moves out of br 1/17 H rents house & moves out 2/17 OW (he denies PA but EA last winter) 5/17 I filed for D 7/17 D Final