That's exactly what happened. There was this flurry of things, her wanting to spend time together, talking about comign to the house this week so we can work on something with D, having dinner together, her talking about how excited she was, etc. She says it was all about me spending time with D (don't know how I'm supposed to interpret "I'm so excited" as anything other, but whatever).
I'm bummed out, but not as bad as before.
This is why it's recommended to go dark and start turning down these invites. You had some expectations attached to all of the things you labeled as 'weird'. But now youre bummed, because it didnt work out like you had hoped.
Originally Posted By: EastTN
Though she denies it, she acts like his girlfriend (I see her log on to xbox 15 minutes before he gets home from work, then the two of them spend the next few hours together in party, then they log out around the same time).
1) Why are you still watching this level of activity?
2) Why are you talking to her about it?
Originally Posted By: EastTN
I said I would give this a couple of months (if lawyer can draft something that protects me enough to make me feel safe and she signs/agrees with it) and I will, but I'm pretty sure there's no point in doing so.
Again, what does it matter? Instead of focusing on the physical relationship you have (with respect to the paperwork of being married), you should be focusing on your detachment. And theres no timetable for that.
