So Confused and Conflicted (6)

[Bdog37]

Wsh, sorry to hear you aren't doing so good. There is no "light switch" that you can turn off and have these feelings go away. The only thing you can do is learn to deal with them in a positive way. Believe me, I have been there, but it does get better!

Mine left me with nothing, changed her feelings for me in such a short time, and even found herself a new man. These things were terribly hard for me to deal with so I know how hard it is. The best thing for me was to GAL and keep busy. Anytime I started reflecting on my M, and missing my W, I replaced those thoughts and found something to preoccupy my mind.

GAL does not necessarily mean to physically go out all the time. Sometimes, for me, it just meant occupying my mind when feeling depressed. For example, I would find chores around the house that I kept putting off. I would crank some music and finally clean out a closet or something. Anything that would draw my attention away from my feelings for my W.

Believe me Wsh, it s****.... It is really painful to know that the faithful one in a relationship is left picking up the pieces and healing, while the other has already moved onto a new relationship. Just know that you are not alone my friend.