He's been in touch with a proposal he drafted regarding the sale of the house. So apparently he's going through with it.
He says he would like me to review his document and meet to sign it, and he so generously will pay for an attorney to make it legal.
In it, he is trying to get me to negate how we have the deed. Right now we have 50/50 ownership. We did this in order to prevent either of us from being kicked out if something happens to the other person (especially if something happened to him and his kids were still minors and awful exW was thus in charge of his share) With this type of ownership, the sale would be 50/50 unless someone raised a challenge. So he's trying to get me to sign something with the terms of another deed, to negate me having any claim to the property, without coming out and saying so.
His contract states that I will not move back in prior to the sale (guess I've still got cooties?), that he will stay there until the sale, that he will be in charge of selecting a realtor/FSBO, that he will solely determine which offers to accept, and that he will get his entire down-payment back upon sale. And if there is anything left over, we will split that 50/50.
This is what he should have done back when we were purchasing it. He didn't, because he was committed.
Now that he's unilaterally ended the relationship, he wants to be able to hit an "undo" button and walk away unscathed.
I am sniffling at my desk today because it has occurred to me that he is TRYING to make this as ugly as possible. He did not mention the few thousand that I paid into equity by making the monthly payments, which he has scoffed at every time I brought it up. He left that out of his contract on purpose.
He is trying to make this ugly for two reasons:
1. To ensure that he burns every bridge and there is never a way back, and
2. To give himself more ammunition about how awful I am, how I was just after his money, and to justify how he has been acting toward me since that day in January when he lost his mind.
This hurts so badly to see him setting this up so that he can tell himself that he was justified to leave me.
(I am obviously not signing this contract. I sent it to my lawyer to review and I will let the lawyer be the bad guy.)
Even after I knew what a financial advantage I had (he can contest 50/50, but as I put no money down, he's the only one lessening what he gets), I still tried to keep him from self-destructing. It hurts to see that he's bound and determined to self-destruct, and he's setting it up so that he can blame me for it.
Ouch.
I don't want to be punitive, but what am I to do here? His actions have already cost me a significant amount of money, in moving costs, attorney's fees, and in the extra tax I will have to pay on my condo when I sell it because I'd turned it into a rental. And I didn't want any of this. I would not have tied myself to him financially if I knew he was capable of running away as he has.
Does anyone have suggestions on how to get out of the role he's trying so hard to cast me into?
