So far W is sticking to her promise to stop her online affair. However, she is also sticking to the fact that she wants to divorce "eventually". We are back to being nice to each other but she only wants to be friends. She strongly feels entitled to full support from me however long it takes for her to become financially independent. She feels is so strongly that I can tell that she assumes that it is going to happen. She doesn't even try to hide the fact that it might take years to get set up enough to walk out of our marriage. One other good thing that happened is that W admitted that the last few months were she felt spied on might have been in her head. It seems that once she talked about it out loud it helped her realize that it might not be real.
So, it looks like my challenge now is to figure out how I want to handle this long term "friend" relationship. It's a really tough situation because I want us to both be there for the kids.
What do you think I should be doing at this point? My current plan is to just let things go for a few more months and remain friendly and see if anything new develops. Is this a bad idea? It this a nuclear grade case of cake eating? I know I can do this for a while longer but I don't see myself supporting her for years knowing the whole time that she will walk out at the end. It's all pretty exasperating.
