Cadence, This is what a moderator told me about communicating with friends on the forums.
The PM has never been available to posters. We aren't allow to provide any kind of personal data on the forum, which includes your home address, phone number, email and/or your FB info. I would suggest that you go to facebook and start an account in Facebook that is easy for me or others to recognize. Generally, posters will use their poster names here and type DB directly behind that name.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton